Sometimes I can't even focus on doing my music because my head is literally swirling around in negative thoughts that I can't even write the charismatic music I'd like to do. Have you ever felt like this where you just couldn't even function at work properly because you're so busy thinking about what people've said to you and it just rewinds in your mind over and over and over?
It feels so damn ugly, yet you begin to question whether you should even exist or not because it seems like no one ever likes you for whatever reason. Making friends at work is super stressful for you because you know from experience that after your first month of starting a new job, your co-workers just don't seem to like you for some reason. It might be because you're not into gossiping like them, or you're super shy. I know it sounds like I might be taking it too personal, but time after time again it's probably happen to some of you with social anxiety or poor social skills.
You see, I grew up with bad social skills because I've had too many and counting shitty experiences with others. I'm not going to detail all of the horror stories here because it would take up the entire page, but if you know me from anywhere you know I talk about this a lot. Heck, some of you reading this came here because you know exactly what it is I'm talking about. People just don't like you at first and you're trying to figure out why.
I know what it feels like to walk into a job interview only to have to lady at the front desk twitching her eye at you as if you hurt her feelings. For guys, some of you have probably felt this feeling of angst from females as if you're the dirt on the bottom of their shoe. For people who come off as they couldn't be trusted, this is your everyday life and you just get used to the rude cashiers and the not so nice security guards, policemen, authority figures, etc.
Thus, this is what it feels like to be an absolute outcast. It doesn't feel good, and as a matter of fact it feels terrible. People with social anxiety are often times misunderstood people who are perceived to be stuck up. For women, this may be referred to as having a "bitch face" due to the fact that their standard face doesn't come off as smiley. Such double standards can indeed be incredibly exhausting.
Now I'm not sure why the western world, especially Americans expect others to put on a fake smile so much. Even in a commercial I saw once, the American actors were trying so hard to smile it made them look crazy. I mean, it's cool you're getting paid to act, but is this really worth your sanity? I don't know about you, but I'd rather have tons of haters and enemies than to have people who like me for I am not.
So maybe you are something special if you do actually happen to get this much hate. And I say hate because it damn near feels like hate, lol. What loving person would want to harass you simply because "you look dangerous" without even having met you or anything. What so called "peaceful" individual would assume you "look like a killer" despite never having met you, your achievements, or your personal friends.
It's the introverts in a world full of extroverts who take the brunt of pain with them, but the even crazier part about this is that with all of this hate towards someone like you, it's kind've funny that when others do happen to take the time to understand you better and not prejudge you, they actually begin to like you a lot. I've seen this happen so many times in my life, not just with women but with teachers, managers, older men etc.
For example, for those men out there who just so happen to be good looking, this is particularly true for you because insecure women will pull up their nose up at you because you probably remind them of the guy who played them in 7th grade. The same goes for attractive women, often times I would see this scenario play out so many freaking times it was ridiculous. There was three women, one was good looking and the other two were just average. The good looking girl was always seemingly getting into trouble and the other two girls called her rude. As you might've guessed, good looking girl was eventually fired.
But here's another interesting statistic folks; Did you know that attractive women are more likely to be hired by male interviewers (duh lol) but at the same time, a younger, fit male is more likely to be rejected by these same older men. An older male being interviewed has no effect, and an average women is more or less the same. Similarly, if an older female interviewer is interviewing a younger, attractive male, that person is miles ahead of getting a job than an attractive female candidate. Maybe even an average looking female would have some barrier to entry with an older interviewer but It's called competition. These humans are pretty sick, twisted, and shallow yo.
Now I'm not saying all of this to puff up anyone's ego nor to claim that I'm walking around flipping skirts like Ryan Gosling. I'm saying most of this so that maybe we can apply the same ideas towards other areas in life where humans feel insecurity and jealously towards, because hey let's be honest here: Jealousy just might be the reason why you have the haters hate, or why you have social anxiety in the first place. Some of you may or may not believe in God, but all I know is that you can sure as hell bet that it's a negative force driving those who don't even know you to have animosity towards you.
Perhaps it's a demon that senses some good in you and thus why they hate you. I know it might sound psychoactive for a bit, but hear me out; After all, I don't really believe that anybody can just dislike you without getting to know you first. I'm a firm believer in spirits controlling these people in these retail settings, offices, etc. It's certainly not right nor acceptable to me, which leads me onto another point;
Once you start to acquire a certain status in life, be it financial, social, or academically, people will begin to be jealous towards you and it has to do with those individuals not living up to their fullest extent. If you follow some of the most successful people on this planet, aka those who are making a difference and categorized as the one-percent, what you'll find is that their mindsets are often very, very different from those who work regular jobs, or live average lifestyles. Not only is their thinking not the same as most poor people, but their work ethic is usually planned out better too.
How else are these rich folks able to get way more done in an hour than some people get done in a day? It's not because they're superhuman, it's because their mindset is different. So when we talk about social anxiety, what I want you to do is be happy with yourself and start to look onto the path of success because believe me you're anxiety can be cured, everything exciting in life that you think can't happen to you is because either too scared or you're making up bullshit excuses as to why you're not willing to change.
Mentors are an extremely valuable way to start adopting a better mindset and cure your poor social skills, delete unwanted frequencies forming in your head, and also turn you into a positive, high-spirited person. One mentor whom I absolutely love their work is Grant Cardone. He said that you need to be so full of energy and confidence, that the people around you begin to either start hating you and saying you're "too much" or they begin to love you because they can relate to you. He said "if you're not vibrating at a level where you work, it's going to be hard for us to have something in common" and I totally agree.
You don't want to be like the masses and after all if you struggle with talking to girls, that guy you like, making friends, your co-workers, your clients, or even your family, then you need to start doing something different. This is what it's about, so this will be it for today I'm about to shut this down and get some shut eye. PEACE & make sure to love, like, and leave your after thoughts!
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Hi, I'm Kevin! I started Palma Entertainment as an ongoing mission to inspire creatives like you to pursue their goals! Here I give you my unfiltered opinions about everything & 100% real.